I love this harness, I've never owned one before, so this is my first. I'm in LOVE. I'm on the smaller end of plus size so I was worried it would be too big, but I was worried the others would be too small. I carry most of my weight in my ass and legs so I wanted to err on the safe side. I wear a size 16/18 and there is SOOO much slack left over. I still have a lot to figure out, it's certainly a learning curve-but this harness takes out the guess work of at least getting it on. (Learning to hump like a guy is a whole different story-ladies, give your guy a pat on the back for all the hard work he does). Anyways- BUY THIS HARNESS. This is also the best value I've found between several websites including adam and eve, dear lady, amazing, and others. Stop guessing and buy the damn thing!