I bought this toy because I like to play mean. More specifically, I like it when my trusted partners play mean with me. I used this with my boyfriend (who is also my Dom) and it was amazing. His hand was right there, pounding the flesh of my butt and jabbing the extension into me. My advice is to get an attachment or off-brand sheath that's short enough not to hurt you when the toy is shoved right up to your body. Honestly, we just threw a glove finger on it, as is, for the first try. The ridges rubbed my g-zone like wut. My partner and I had an awesome time with this thing. Lots of pressure and sensation, no pain, plenty of play-fear. As he put it, this thing has a brutal energy. Enjoy!!